I’ve been that girl: not knowing how to let a GOOD man love me



So, you’re finally over the toxic men you’ve dated in the past. You’ve grown into a mature woman and have learned from your mistakes. Now you’re ready for a GOOD man. You’re ready to pour all your energy and love into a healthy relationship. But are you ready for a good man to actually love you?

I thought I was. I knew for sure I wanted a good man but I had NO IDEA how a good relationship was supposed to work. I had no idea how a good man was supposed to treat me.

I met my current boyfriend about a year and a half ago. He is truly the best boyfriend I’ve ever had but we butted heads a few times because I wouldn’t let him be a good man to me. I would always try to over do it and do EVERYTHING in the relationship. I thought that’s what I had to do to keep him. That’s what I was used to doing.

I wouldn’t let him take care of me. I wouldn’t let him do nice things for me. I would feel guilty for accepting his good treatment towards me. I probably almost sabotaged the relationship a couple of times. I really thought these type of issues were just something you would see in a Tyler Perry movie!


“Let me take care of you!” are words he have said to me numerous times. I remember the first time he said it I just stood there looking confused as hell. I think I started crying even. I didn’t even realize that I was coming off as “hard to love.” I would always try to overstep him and take care of myself and him. That’s all I knew how to do. I thought I had to be superwoman.

This relationship has taught me so much and is STILL teaching me a lot. I’m slowly getting spoiled by him and getting used to someone actually having my back for a change. I’ve learned how to accept love instead of just giving it. Good men do exist, just make sure you’re actually ready for one.

3 Comments Add yours

  1. Azaila says:

    I love this and needed to hear this today. You are a very relatable blogger! Inspiring me to start blogging again. Thanks for sharing 🙂


  2. Kindall D. says:

    Thank you so much for reading! And yes, blogging is so therapeutic!!


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